We have all been there: rejection from the job that we dreamt of, a good friend breaking our trust, family members facing unforeseen circumstances, a bad relationship and a decision that we cannot understand. And with those circumstances, we have been swept by a sea of anxiety, depression and worries where we overthink and overcompensate. These feelings seem all too familiar and no matter how hard you try to shake it off – you can’t. My advice to you is to have faith, with the knowledge that everything happens for a reason.
Ultimately, if you have a clean heart and good intentions, the universe will work its way in taking all that is bad away from you and bringing the good in abundance to you. Looking retrospectively will prove just this – I think about when I was upset about not getting accepted into the University course I wanted, only to go to another university all together and have an incredible year in America – an experience I never would have had if my first ‘choice’ had not fallen through. I think about job opportunities that I have said ‘no’ to, only to get a better offer weeks later. I reflect on my business that was never part of the plan a few years ago, but with the right timing, contacts and attitude – it all fell into place.
Focus on what is in your control and immerse yourself with faith that what is meant for you, will always be yours. People will leave. Let them with confidence that they were never for you. Do not stress about the fruits that have not become ripe and the decisions you have not had to make. Simultaneously, do not be disheartened by the decisions that have been made for you. Good tidings await those who have been afflicted with disaster and pain – there are important lessons to be learnt and your future self will thank you for them. Your character will be tested – it is important to stay kind in your actions and words during these times, for this is what you will be remembered by.
In all the trials and tribulations, stay grateful – for everything, including the tears you have cried, the lessons you learnt, the hardship you have overcome. Turn that gratitude into daily affirmations where you elevate the blessings you have at your disposal. If you look around and can see a family that cares for you, shelter, food and a steady income – you have more than most. The ‘good life’ that we have been conditioned to chase via social media is one that worships objects and material goods. What I have learnt is that nothing material matters in the end. Indeed, they are beautiful and pleasing to the eye, but the soul requires peace and that cannot be bought in stores. So, say thank you for everything, and be sure to remember what the higher goal is. Trust timing and the belief that nothing happens by chance.
Most importantly, forgive in the absence of an apology. Don’t be at war with your mind, heart, the past and just remember – some day it will all make sense. It is easy to dwell on what could have been, would have been and should have been, but there is peace in putting your trust in the universe/God and letting things run their course. The right actions, people and decisions will eternally shine through.
HS xo
This has helped me so much. I’m currently going through a rollercoaster of emotions due to my parents not accepting the man I want to marry because of his ethnicity. This has been so hard on me because I don’t want to lose either of them. My mind is constantly thinking about all the possible outcomes that only lead to heartbreak for myself. I’m praying everyday for myself and my health, hoping one day I’ll wake up and my parents won’t care about the ethnicity anymore. It’s only been a couple days since telling them but I still don’t see this ending positively.